Success isn't something that can be obtained just from qualifications alone. It's built up from passion, a positive attitude, and a strong will to keep trying no matter how many times you fall.
And it is HARD. Your feet will ache, your heart will sink at times, but at the end of the day, YOU can make a difference in the world no matter where you are. The smiles that you bring to the faces of those you love will remind you why you started.
That being said, there are a few guidelines that I think all women should follow at the office and really anywhere to create a better world for ourselves and those around us.
I came up with a list of things that any successful woman should never do at work, and beyond:
1. Never say quit.
You guys, quit is a four letter word. That is both literally and figuratively. Your dreams can NOT become a reality if you give up. Failure is inevitable, but we can't spend our lives avoiding it out of fear! Don't be discouraged when you fall. The most important attribute someone can have in the workplace and in the world is the ability to get back up. Don't quit because you fall down once, twice, or even a hundred times! Eventually, you will get it!
2. Never lose your cool.
The worst thing you could work with is an atmosphere of fear and worry. It kills trust, creativity, and the desire to take risks. If someone on your team blew up on a weekly basis, that would kill the team. That's why it is so important for us all to remain calm, even through the worst of times.
Mental strength isn't something that we are either born with or without. It's something that takes time, patience, and a desire to grow. Things will go wrong no matter where you are, but the ability to let something go allows you to keep moving towards your goals!
3. Never run from conflict.
You have a lot to offer. You have opinions and experience, and what you can bring to the table needs to be heard. If someone disagrees with you, don't run out of fear that your situation will instantly become aggressive.
Fight for your cause.
If your gut tells you to do something, do it. Approach the situation with patience and grace, and face your fears head-on.
In creative agencies, teams value something called creative abrasion, which is conflict caused by clashing creative ideas. This is A GOOD THING! Bouncing off ideas, playing devil's advocate, and working together to create a new idea fosters innovation, and betters your finished product. Speak up for yourself, and be ready to be disagreed with. Without risk, what is progress?
4. Never expect.
That is a complete sentence! Don't expect something to turn out flawlessly, and don't expect something you're unsure about to end in only negative outcomes. Anticipate what is realistic if you are able to, but don't adjust your attitude for failure or perfection.
Whatever happens, you will always have the option to make the best of a bad situation. Serendipity is a beautiful thing! Don't drain your energy by bumming yourself out before you even know what is going to happen.
5. Never let someone else manipulate YOUR mind.
There are negative people out there, and there are people who will tell you that you will fail. There are people who will try to change your heart towards your company, and your values.
But girl, let's be real. Those people are ridiculous.
NOBODY has the position to tell you what you can or can't do. You have incredible power within your heart whether you realize it or not. If someone thinks otherwise, it's not worth your time or effort to listen.
6. Never let go of an opportunity to shine!
Living with regrets of NOT DOING is way worse than trying and failing. If there's an opportunity available for something that you want to try, or something you think you can kick butt with, DO IT!!!!!!!!
You have to be willing to do things that others don't want to do, because often, those risks have the ability to raise you up above the crowd. And if you fall? Get your booty up, and try again!
7. Never hide from your fears.
I totally get it, some risks are beyond scary. But you're a bosslady! Running away is not an option.
Don't avoid something just because it's intimidating. You can and will get through it, even if it turns out badly. Face your fears head-on, because there's no other way to approach it.